A Few Notes On Style Confidence

I wore this outfit the day I went to see Everything At Once – so basically on a very chilled kind of Sunday. Yet again, this goes to show that casual isn’t instinctively my thing (but you can see my thoughts on casual dressing here). I think this was the last day I wore nude tights (insert crying emoji here) – it was also the first day in a long, long time in which I didn’t feel good in what I was wearing.

The day started off with ridiculous, not-so-funny jokes courtesy of the bf saying I looked like I worked the streets – which don’t help when you’re about to walk out of the house for most of the day. I felt self-conscious straight away and like people were staring at me. It was such a bad feeling and it was a while before it went away (not before an argument with the bf and basically feeling like I had to hide out).

Have I outgrown my beloved cheetah print coat (seen all the way back here)? Can I not pull off bare legs and boots due to my chunky legs? Whatever it is, I was annoyed at myself for feeling like this. I’ve always struggled with self-confidence – mostly due to the fact that I’ve never really had any! But when it comes to fashion, I know my sh*t. I have loved fashion and style for half my life and believe I am very confident when it comes to my personal style. It’s definitely been a work in progress and this blog has been key in my style journey – the point is, I stopped caring about fitting in a long time ago. I am very, very confident when it comes to style. So I was annoyed to be finding myself feeling insecure – that’s not how I like to roll!

The truth is, as confident as I’ve become with my fashion choices, sometimes I still feel insecure. Sometimes, I’ll worry about what other people – whether they be strangers or my friends or boyfriend – think. It sucks but that’s just how it is – it doesn’t happen often, and of course, the aim is for it to never happen at all. But if those insecure moments do come about, I just gotta sail through them, and remind myself that, at the end of the day, there is no point in giving a sh*t about what other people think.

This outfit wasn’t toned-down – in fact, I remember thinking I felt like going for a trashy vibe. Yep, I take inspiration from both the good and the bad – I like bling, I like tacky, I like OTT – sometimes it’s fun to play with what is considered bad taste. So give me all the Pat Butcher vibes you want.

Although how cute is this jumper? I felt like such a blogger cliche when ordering it on ASOS, but the minute I tried it on I was 100% sold. I love the fit, fabric and of course, super cute black and white lettering. I don’t care so much about what it says – I just love how the font looks against the soft yellow backdrop. Speaking of yellow, it’s a colour I have very little of in my wardrobe – I always forget how nice a colour it can be.

We need to talk about this denim skirt I got from ASOS all the way back in the summer. Earlier this year I decided I wanted to get an A-line button-up denim skirt, and this Noisy May piece summed up my needs pretty nicely. The main thing I don’t like about it is the fake front pockets, but other than that I’ve actually been wearing it non-stop for the past few months. I think this denim skirt has become what jeans are to everyone – a basic that I rely on 100% when I don’t know what to style a top with and something that I feel like I could wear everyday.

Ah, these space cowboy boots. Last winter I really wanted a pair of silver boots and I got these when boot season was already over. I wasn’t sure about them at first, then never got around to returning them and was stuck with them. I now love them and have been wearing them loads this winter.

Coat, ASOS (oldie). Earrings, gift. Jumper, New Look. Skirt, Noisy May. Bag, Topshop (seen here). Boots, Pull & Bear.

So there you have it, an ootd that reminded me that it’s not always easy to forget what other people may be thinking of you. It also reminded me that I still need to work on my overall self-confidence, but that my style confidence is, still, almost invincible.

Pictures taken in Somerset House, central London, on November 5th, 2017.

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